WISDOM FROM THE BOOK OF
HAI CLUE
For true love and relations
Two must have great communication
For this to commence
Two must embrace innocence
(see bottom for more explanation #1)
For communication cultivation
At least one but better two
(see bottom for more explanation #2)
Rationally and objectively
Not emotionally or oppressively
Recognizing that thoughts are elective
That two will many times will
Have two perspectives
(see bottom for explanation #3)
It is in this fact
That two must make a love pact
That no matter the perspective
No matter the test
Together through Godly knowledge
Both will find
What’s true,
What’s Godly,
What’s right,
What’s best.
(see bottom for more explanation #4)
Explanation #1 “Innocence”: You must approach solving problems in your
relationship with an innocent heart. There can be no actions based on
putting your mate down, or trying to rob them of self esteem. Or anything
intentionally negative. There also must be faithfulness, you cannot expect
there to be good communication if you are violating the commitment
between the two of you. If you are doing any of this your are part of the
problem. It is already hard enough to see the negative things that are done
unintentionally. So if you care about your relationship don’t violate the
commitment and never be an antagonist or pessimist intentionally.
Explanation #2 “At least one but better two”: Many times it can be difficult
to be solution oriented in emotional situations. This is where at least one
person must be the captain of the ship to keep it from sinking, until the
other can see clearly to start helping. This goes back to innocence it is easier
to convince someone to help you fix the communication problem if you are
not being part of the problem. Your relationship should be a bond of loyalty,
protection, self esteem, hope, future, and family. If you have found
someone worthy of building with and you both see the value, then it should
be mutually understood that four hands work better than one.
Explanation #3 “Two will many times will have two perspectives”: This is a
simple but very vital concept. So far we have established the idea that you
have found someone worthy of building with and it’s mutual. Well, just
because there is a difference in perspective it does not have to become
emotional, if it does that emotion does not take away all of the goodness
that you once saw in the person. You have to understand that you both are
still good people having a misunderstanding about a subject, perhaps where
the kids are going to school, or what church, or what pass-time, etc. If you
are having a disagreement about cheating or flirting then your problem is
much bigger. However, if faithfulness is still in tact then you can move
forward easier and deal with the problem rationally and objectively.
Explanation #4 “What’s best”: Now this is a very elusive item to discover.
There is a process to discovering what’s best. A blueprint you can use is one
that has worked wonderfully for me in my relationship, and it is, using the
guidelines of true, Godly, and best.
WHAT’S TRUE: First of all when you look for what is true argument, and
emotion should cease. For example, in context, it is true that yelling is
destructive, we learn that in elementary school. So unless you are dealing
with an “intentional antagonist” you should be able to come to an
agreement on that rather easily. It is true that insults are destructive which
could cause someone to lash out and yell so either side should know that
they are doing damage to the relationship if they do it.
WHAT’S GODLY: We know that God loves us immensely, in fact he is love
personified. We have only but to think of him and it should motivate us to
treat our wife or husband with the highest level of respect, commitment,
and love. Thinking of what is Godly or what God would do should keep us
motivated to being solution oriented.
WHAT’S RIGHT: Finally, we know that remaining calm, being grateful for
our wife or husband, focusing on the good, not being antagonistic or
pessimistic are all the is the right things to do so these thing should always
be on our minds, in our hearts, and in our actions. Try using this blueprint
in you relationship fill in the blanks or “right, godly, or true” as it relates to
issue you deal with and watch how it become a little easier to find the
solutions.
It is my hope that I have encouraged you to day. This poetry and concept can
be found in my book “The Book of Hai Clue” click to browse through it.
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