Welcome to the Shu Ha Ri Do website. Although Shuhari is a Japanese word, Shu Ha Ri Do is influenced by Kung Fu, Muay Thai, Wrestling, Jeet Kune Do and other systems. My title is Sifu however, I could have just as easily been called Shihan. The word Shu Ha Ri describes the stages of learning all the way to mastery. It is sometimes referred to in other disciplines, as Go. Shuhari roughly translates to "to imitate, to create, to master". This site is all about martial arts techniques, inspiring quotes, safety, awareness, and uncommon knowledge regarding self mastery under the Kingdom of Heaven. Interested in training in Shu Ha Ri Do martial arts visit 17842 S Dixie Hwy 33157 Monday and Wednesday 4:30 to 7:00 pm or contact Sifu G. at email@example.com.
For more clarity about the poem you just read. What do I mean when I say vibe? A vibe< like a noun can be a person place or thing. What kind of places are negative? Clubs, many parties, some neighborhoods. What kind of things could be negative? Music, movies, certain activities, and much more.
You have to keep it real with yourself. You know when something is righteous or not. However, if you choose to ignore the obvious red flags, then you simply cannot be surprised at what chaos comes to your life.
First of all it is a major disappointment to God as he is the author of marriage. He encouraged the first husband and wife to “be fruitful and multiply”. Biblically speaking it is a sacred bond between a man and a woman where “the two become one flesh”. The act of adultery is also called unfaithfulness. I am sure we all can agree that faithfulness is a good thing. With that being said, there should be no debate as to whether unfaithfulness is a bad thing. It is. Now, I am not writing this to beat those who have struggled or given into this over the head. I am writing this to shed light on how, and why you should change. Adultery/unfaithfulness betrays the expectations that God has regarding relationships.
2. IT BETRAYS YOUR WIFE/HUSBAND
When you enter into a relationship even if it’s girlfriend or boyfriend faithfulness is expected. Who starts dating with the idea that unfaithfulness is ok? So don’t think of this article in terms of what you have been taught about marriage. Marriage is much more than a license. Ask yourself these questions, how were people married before the 1800’s? What was the “REAL” reason for the marriage license when it started? Do you know? What was “common law marriage” how different is it from long term dating? What about those who marry just for citizenship are they really married? Is God going to ask for your marriage license?
What does the word marry mean? Think in terms of engineering? Well, when you research these answers you will have a clearer picture of the value of a relationship, and how you should approach them license or not. Here is another question to ask yourself, what about contracting and transferring a disease. Now that would be double betrayal! What I am saying here is, regardless of a license if you are unfaithful, you are betraying the person you are with.
3. IT BETRAYS YOUR CHILDREN
If you have children please understand that you are betraying them as well. Not only does your mate have an expectation that you will be faithful but, your children do as well. You must be real about the painful effects. Think of the embarrassment that your children will experience especially if things end in a public display which usually happens. Think of your daughter orson copying the same behavior, or worse endorsing, and enduring it. Meditate on this…
4. IT BETRAYS YOUR LEGACY
You must understand that you are building a legacy with your actions. If you are living a life of betraying relationships that goes on your “moral resume” which is basically your LEGACY. Your children run the risk of following in your footsteps. You simply must see the impact faithfulness and loyalty to your mate has on your moral resume/legacy. You and your mate are the builders, the designers of what will be your bloodline the merger of two seeds! So choose your mate wisely, and when you have a good one DO NOT sabotage it with betrayal!
THE 7 STRATEGIES OF PROTECTION
1. YOU SIMPLY MUST DECIDE THAT YOU WILL NOT DO IT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES
I have written several posts about “CODE” which is basically a set of principles, I live by a biblical code. If you use this information properly I can assure you that it will keep chaos away from you home. Meditate on this
post and decide that you will live by a code of integrity, morality, faithfulness, trustworthiness, and wisdom. Decide that under no circumstances will you betray your relationship. Even when they make you mad after an argument, betrayal is never justified.
2. THINK OF HOW YOU WOULD FEEL IF IT WERE DONE TO YOU
For most of us this would cause a tremendous amount of pain. Ask yourself would you want your daughter or son to feel this. So regardless of whether your husband or wife said something hurtful or made you angry. Do not make a permanent decision over a temporary emotion. There are much better ways to deal with conflicts. If your spouse is abusive you could get counseling, separate, or worst case scenario divorce. As I mentioned in step 1. live by a code.
3. YOU MUST CLEARLY DEFINE WHAT IS APPROPRIATE AND INAPPROPRIATE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX (BE AWARE ALSO THAT AS OF NOW ANY SEX WILL PROPOSITION YOU)
You must be real with yourself about those outside of your relationship. You and your spouse/mate must have talks about what is inappropriate. You cannot assume when you meet someone that they have the same habits, comfort zones, or cultural background as you. There are things that will cause problems in an otherwise good relationship, that people just do not think about. I will explain further in the following steps.
4. BE ON GUARD AT WORK, EXPECT FLIRTATION, ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES
You simply must not underestimate the impact jobs or careers can have on relationships. I would go as far as saying that jobs and careers are hostile to relationships. For example, there are many uncomfortable situations that women and men are forced into on jobs. Like being forced into awkward
lunch situations with the opposite sex due to a schedule. Being expected or coerced into buying a gift for a co-worker of the opposite sex whose name was pulled out of a hat i.e. “secret santa”. Working in confined quarters with the opposite sex where uncomfortable silences get broken by forced conversations, forced familiarity. Are you doubting this? Well, you have only to think of all the times when women and especially men have taken advantage of these types of scenarios. So many women have come forward to complain about sexual harassment on the job. This happens to men as well however, most either enjoy it or feel uncomfortable making complaint. Internalize 1. 2. and 3. and establish boundaries at your job.
5. BE CORDIAL BUT MEASURED WITH NEIGHBORS, ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES
Relationships with neighbors can also be an awkward science to master. However, master it you must because unless you live on a multi acre estate you will have neighbors. What you simply must be real about is the fact that everyone has character flaws. The character flaws that you are committed to tolerating and being patient with as they change are the ones in your home.
When it comes to those outside but right next door or across the street from your home you must be measured. You simple must not be overly friendly with your neighbor of the opposite sex. If you do you could very easily reinforce the wrong idea day after day and find yourself in an awkward situation faced with their character flaws and temptations. Or even worse have your flaws mingling with theirs, so maintain the intimacy and privacy of your home by setting boundaries with neighbors.
6. GOING TO NIGHTCLUBS IS TOXIC FOR MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIPS
Though some many not agree with this, I will pose some questions everyone must be real about. What time do clubs open? What time do they close? What are the main types of drinks at clubs? Are most people sober? Why do women drink free after midnight? Are guys looking for wives there? Are
women looking for husbands? Would you tell your daughter or son to look for her mates there? That smell in the air, is it pine? Why is Rohypnol called the club drug? I encourage you to meditate on these questions and your answers and watch the epiphany come over you.
7. ESTABLISH PHYSICAL AND MENTAL CHECK-POINTS
What I am about to share in this step is so important. What do I mean by check points? Let’s start with your eyes, they are a check point. They are a check point for your mind, the eyes are the first check point.
If something is forbidden or dangerous limit your looks to one or none if possible. The second check point is your mind/thoughts. If you continue looking you will continually think about what/who you are observing limit your thoughts to
one or none if possible. The 3rd and very dangerous check point is your feelings. What
you continually think about you will eventually begin to feel. You simply must stop this at the thought check point if it gets past your eyes. The fourth check point is communication at this point there should be all kinds
of sirens, bells, and whistles blowing in your mind warning you to stop! It is
at this point that your flaws/temptations begin to merge with the flaws/temptations of another. At this point the problem is no longer just inside of you, it is now outside of you. You have made known to the opposite sex that which should never have taken root in you. If the feelings are reciprocated now come the discussion of physical expression of the feelings, at this point all check points have been bypassed. You see I break it down like this to show that there is no such thing as “it just happened”.
No, it does not just happen. There are check points unfortunately for some those check points have no guards at the post. I will summarize this step in 5 words SIGHT, THOUGHT, FEELINGS, COMMUNICATION, ACTIONS.The four words you can use to summarize and internalize this teaching are “ESTABLISH & MAINTAIN PROPER BOUNDARIES”. You can build a great relationship! I speak from experience! You can do it! Apply the strategies that I share in this post, be consistent and watch the fortress of a relationship that emerges over time.
A fuse box and a spinal column. What do these two images have in common? Scroll to the info-graphic below for further clarification…
Your spine is basically the fuse box of the body. Your nerves are like electrical wires delivering power to your limbs and so much more throughout the body. Your brain is like a power plant that the spine is connected to. How is you brain empowered? Righteously or un-righteously? Whose house are you???
Greetings everyone. I am creating a new category called the Warrior Wisdom Book Club. I will be posting some of the books that have changed my life, and helped shaped me into the person I am today (of course the Bible is the foundation for me). This book written by Napoleon Hill provides powerful and disturbing insights into the 2nd most dangerous enemy facing mankind (the 1st being ourselves/choices, which is why wisdom is so important). In this book Mr. Hill is conducting an interview where he coerces the devil to be candid with his answers about how he tricks mankind. The book begins with Napoleon telling the devil character that he has become aware of a code by which he can force him to be truthful in his responses.
However, the devil character cautions Napoleon to address him as (wait for it) “Your Majesty”! Though I have respect for my enemy I could only laugh at the audacity! You will see a a side of this enemy that you probably never considered. The questions are answered in such a way that it seems only the devil could answer. When I started reading it I could not put it down, I was amazed by the realness of the answers the character of the devil gave in this book, it just seemed so real, this book will make you think outside of the box. You can also listen to the audio book by clicking here I encourage you to read an actual copy, and listen to the audio in whatever order you choose. Feel free to leave your questions or comments, and we can discuss it.
Hello, everyone. I present to you a metaphor I’ve used hundreds of times in the past to encourage peaceful resolutions when dealing with challenging or difficult people. Those whom you know have character flaws that they have not decided to change, and therefore they cause havoc in the lives of others.
What is the sound of one hand clapping?
The answer I present?
Simply move your “hand” out of the way.
And there will be no “clap” (conflict)
No sound (negative energy).
Let their “hand” (behavior) miss yours
By simply not being available…
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I posted an audio version of this article. However, I decided to re-post this content in written form as some learn better by reading. So many in life are struggling with various things that serve to cripple their self esteem, and faith. In this Hai Clue I want to draw attention to the process of becoming. In God’s creation there are many clues to how things become what they will be. As human beings we must not engage in self destructive actions and trust the process. Being a willing participant in our spiritual growth guided by the hand of God is incredibly important. There is a hidden clue in the title below, can you figure it out? If so type your response in the comment section below.
CATERing to low self esteem with PILls wont bring you up to pAR
Let’s see what the caterpillar has to say about hard times …
“I crawl I crawl sometimes I trip over my many feet
However, it may take me two days to walk down your street
Oh woe is me!
And I’m hairy oh so hairy
To many I may even seem scary
Oh woe is me!
And soon, soon I’ll cocoon
So dark inside
Without even the light of the moon
Oh woe is me!
For such a long time
All I’ll get to know is me
Wait what’s this
It seems from the darkness I have actually gained true wealth
For pushing against the cocoon shell are extensions of myself
Oh growth is me!
This tomb, my cocoon
Has served as a private class room
Whoa! the subject was me!
My life is now sure to reach new heights
With my wings I’ll ride the wind in a new class called flight
Oh! the possibilities of Me!
Keep in mind WHO “designed” the caterpillar, the process of the cocoon,
and the transformation process, and see the metaphor in your own life.
With God we will rise one way or another! Believe it!
“There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly.”
-Buckminster Fuller, 1895-1983, American Architect and Engineer
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