9 IRREFUTABLE REASONS WHY SMOKING IS UNJUSTIFIABLE!

 

1.NON SMOKERS DO NOT APPRECIATE SECOND HAND SMOKE

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2.FOR THE YOUTH, SMOKING DOES NOT MAKE YOU COOL

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3.BATTLING THE ADDICTION CAN BE EXHAUSTING SO DON’T START

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4.YOUR LUNGS WERE NOT MADE FOR PROCESSING SMOKE

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5.DO YOU KNOW WHAT’S IN A CIGARETTE?

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Among many other things, Arsenic, Carbon Monoxide, Ammonia, Methanol, Methane, Acetic Acid, Butane, Cadmiun, Stearic Acid, Hexamine, Toluene, and of course Nicotine.

6.DO YOU KNOW WHAT C.O.P.D. IS?

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Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) is a lung disease characterized by chronic obstruction of lung airflow that interferes with normal breathing and is not fully reversible. The more familiar terms ‘chronic bronchitis’ and ’emphysema’ are no longer used, but are now included within the COPD diagnosis.

7.ARE YOU PREPARED FOR CANCER?

They say a picture is worth a 1000 words.

8.YOU WOULD NOT ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILDREN TO DO IT

This is a disgusting scene. Anyone would agree that this is unhealthy and unjustifiable for a baby. Clearly it is unhealthy and unjustifiable for adults.

9.WHY PROVOKE YOUR OWN DEATH?

Many people justify smoking with the statement “well you gotta die of something. Well, my first question for someone who says that is, why provoke your own death. The second thing I would say to that person is you may not die, you may live to 95. However, you could be living with, a collapsed lung, no voice box, no teeth, dependent on an oxygen tank or worse. And then you die all be it a slow and painful death but all provoked by you. If you are thinking of smoking please think long about this. If you are already smoking I encourage you to pursue professional services if needed, but by all means don’t take another puff!

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4 STEPS FOR BUILDING A POWERFUL LEGACY. COMMIT TO THIS PROCESS!

1.PROGRAMMING

When I say programming what I mean is, what you are learning. Remember this, you are always learning something, thus you are always being “programmed”. The question you must ask is who is programming me? You must take back the “creative control” of your mind. You must decide what enters it. Once you are “the programmer” you must choose useful, righteous, powerful, uplifting content. Have you ever heard of “mindless entertainment”? Some form of entertainment is beneficial, but how much of mindless entertainment is a part of your programming. Don’t be idle with your mind choose a righteous, and powerful blueprint for your legacy and install it in your mind.

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KNOWLEDGE OF GOD IS THE ULTIMATE KNOWLEDGE

2.PASSION

Whatever you are programmed with, you will indeed develop a passion about. You simply must understand this. Passion is powerful, it is what drives you, inspires you, and becomes your ambition. Righteous programming creates righteous passions. With the righteous and powerful blueprint installed in your mind imprint it onto your heart and let the passion for it burn.

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3.APPLICATION

Passion becomes action, now that you have righteous passions move forward confidently, knowing that your footprint in the world and in the lives of others will have righteous effects! This is the beginning of your legacy!

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4.REPETITION

After programming this is the most important step. Repetition is vital because with it your  grasp on becoming what you have programmed into yourself will be strong. Picture a blue print for a building. There are many things within a blueprint that are repetitive but very vital. So you must think in this way when you decide to be righteously different. The greatest samurai Musashi Myamoto said this “One thousand days of lessons for discipline, ten thousands days of lessons for mastery”.

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TEN THOUSAND REPETITIONS IS YOUR GOAL

So if you start today and at the end of the month you say “I got this” you are wrong. You are not even disciplined at it! You must adopt the mindset of one thousands “reps” just to become disciplined. Then you pursue ten thousand days for mastery. Thinking this way you will become a powerful person, because knowing that you have not “arrived” will keep you humble. This humility in the face of such a commitment to the “ten thousand repetitions” makes you powerful. I can tell you these things because this has been my life for the last 28 years. I have witnessed the power of this process as I have practiced it for all these years. Commit to the process. This is another illustration of what I mean by “self mastery under the Kingdom of Heaven. If you are serious about learning it read all of my posts, buy the books, download the free stuff. What I share is the epitome of a righteous program. Godspeed everyone.

Self mastery the life long journey, follow the blue print!

Self Mastery is a process…

DO NOT DECEIVE YOURSELF. APPLY!

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GUARD YOUR PASSIONS!

ARE YOU AS SMART AS AN INSECT? OR SMARTER?

 

9 SAFETY STEPS TO INFORM YOUR CHILDREN AND FEMALE FAMILY MEMBERS ABOUT HUMAN TRAFFICKING!

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1. ONLY MEET A STRANGER IN A PUBLIC PLACE

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 Never let anyone know where you live until you know them well. Also let friends and family know when you will be alone with someone you are getting to know. Make use of your phone choose a few family members or close friends and allow them to track your phone via GPS.

 



2.TRUST YOUR INTUITION

Most of the time if something does not feel right, it isn’t!

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3.BE AWARE OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS

Do not have your head buried in your cell phone when you are walking. Remain aware of your surroundings so that you can detect a “glitch in the matrix”.

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4.ALWAYS BE READY TO DEFEND YOURSELF

Invest in pepper spray or a stun gun, and know the zones on the body that you should strike to stop an attacker. You have to develop a side of you that thinks like a predator would. You simply cannot walk around thinking that the world is this big happy place and that it’s your playground. People are victimized daily especially those who think that way. You must be able TOflip the switch and STOP someone from attacking you.

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5.BE WISE WITH SOCIAL MEDIA

Turn off your location settings! If you MUST post personal things make sure it’s view-able by family or close friends only!

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6.DON’T TRUST EASILY

If you suspect something be decisive. If someone approaches you on the street you should feel zero remorse about stopping the conversation when you feel that something is not right. If you think someone is following you
enter the closest building, and tell someone that you think you are being followed. Take not of what the person looks like and the vehicle they are driving so that you can pass this on to the police.

REGARDING EMPLOYMENT OFFERS

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7.GET CREDIBLE ADVICE

If you are offered what seems like an exciting job opportunity locally or in another country, it is imperative that you ask several questions, and get a lot of advice from friends, family, lawyers and professionals in a related field.

8.VAGUE INFORMATION ABOUT THE JOB

If you are give no further information about the company or job after you call, then you should take that as a confirmation of a scam. Overall be wary want ads, street signs, internet employment offers that sound too good to be true.

9.RECRUITING TACTICS

Also be wary when someone recruits you via social media. Never, accept advice, opportunities, or money from someone recruiting you via social media.

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You must arm yourself with specific knowledge about the body God gave you! It is simply not enough to just say I have faith. You must also combine what you believe with action, knowing “what” to do is vital. Just believing you are a martial artist but never practicing is delusional. This mindset is universal, if you want health, it is not enough to simply believe you are healthy and go eat a whole cheese cake and drink a two liter.

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Action is important. So you must learn everything you can about increasing your health through diet, exercise, things like teas, and other supplements. The charts below should be viewed as tools to add to your “health tool box”. Some, shun this type of information, or, are cynical, well hopefully at some point they will become more hungry for knowledge. So with that being said I encourage you to familiarize yourself with how reflexology effects every part, organ, and organ system of the body. You DO NOT have to embrace helplessness, you can educate yourself and become more proactive about your health from a lesser known angle. Internalize the images below. Click them to read more or download a pdf file, or scroll further down to watch the video.

 



 

 

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HOW TO PROTECT AND BUILD YOUR SPIRIT. GODLY KNOWLEDGE IS VITAL!!!

WISDOM FROM MY BOOK “HARNESS THE POWER WITHIN AND WITHOUT”

In my book Harness the Power Within and Without. I share practical tips for living a righteous lifestyle, how to build your mind, body, and spirit under the Kingdom of Heaven. In this article I share an excerpt from my book regarding how to build the spirit. This is what has helped me develop a very powerful spirit based on righteous/Godly knowledge. I am certain it will help you as well.

THE SPIRIT

The spirit is the part of us that desires morality, values, and longs to do the right thing.  Depending on what you allow in your mind your spirit can be overrun by negative external influences if you are not careful you can become desensitized.  When this happens positive inspiration of which God is the origin diminishes and you become even more enticed by negative superficial, man made influences.  Being influenced by man made things is not all bad.  However there are many man made influences that can be considered self destructive evidenced by the results produced.

 




 

  • Drug use results in jail time, and addiction.  Image result for drug addict gif
  • Excessive partying and drunkenness, results in, Alcoholism, DUI’s, vehicular manslaughter, and jail time. Image result for drunk gif
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this is just a small example of the negative man made influences of our society. People fall into the previous situations because drug use, drunkenness, and marital infidelity or immorality, are just some of the many things that get glamorized by TV shows, pick one of the many;

  • movies,
  • songs,
  • videos
  • events like spring break
  • happy hour
  • and the night life environment

As a result of the glamour people are inspired by these things.  What’s worse is a life style based solely on this negative inspiration soon develops an intense appetite for it and loses the ability to tell the difference between negative and positive.  People develop reasons or justifications for why they are inspired by these things.  In the minds of people like this bad becomes good too.  Here is the trap remember a paragraph ago I mentioned man made influences like movies, music, etc.  Well people in the lime light who shun responsibility for their actions, by saying they are not mentors or role models, or saying there is nothing wrong with their behavior, the same wittingly or unwittingly help glamorize negative inspiration.  As stated before all man made influences are not bad, however, doesn’t it seem like society as a whole gravitates toward negative inspirationImage result for society celebrating evil gifThe lesson here is to protect the inside.  Inside of you is what is most powerful and most importantly what’s most vulnerable.  In the Shu Ha Ri Do symbol I use fire to symbolize the spirit with good reason because when you feed a fire it becomes an inferno.  Would you want a fire that burns inside you for the wrong things?  That’s the vulnerability of our spirit it’s synonymous with passion, desire, and drive, you must take care not to be driven by the wrong things.  To harness the power of the spirit you must take a spiritual inventory through meditation and introspection or contemplation. I have mentioned choosing or filtering what goes through the eyes and ears in other articles.  Well the eyes are without a doubt the windows to the soul or spirit and how do most thieves enter houses?

Yes, through the window. To be specific this thief is seeking to steal control over what fuels or inspires you, what you love, hate, your ambitions, or drives.  So our goal regarding the spirit should be to control methods of entry which would be what you hear & see.  Moreover, when you must hear or see something, like when watching a movie, or when with associates or co-workers, or simply because we live in this world.  You must filter out the impurities through meditation and introspection, meditating on or contemplating the positive knowledge and godly concepts you’ve read seen

or heard. You can view this as a spiritual inventory making sure the foundation of positive knowledge that you have worked so hard to establish is not being worn away.  Meditation and introspection help you remember that there is such a thing as morality, ethics, and godliness.  As human beings we are not just creatures of instinct or habit, we can cognitively harness and channel the powers of all three plains of our existence into predetermined goals.  We as human beings must remember that external influences i.e. the thief is seeking to harness those same powers that we possess so as to channel those powers into their predetermined goals.  Remember also, that your spirit is the most vulnerable part of your existence it is also the most powerful part of your existence.  It is the power within that’s stirred by thought, of which thought is stirred by what you see & hear.  Ask yourself what am I building within.  Develop the courage to look within and tell the truth about who you are, do not justify.  Do not rationalize if it means facing the reality that you are in worse shape spiritually than you ever thought, do it.  Be introspective take daily spiritual inventory.  Take courage and the sword of the spirit (a) and go within.

Footnote (a) The Bible

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WISDOM FROM “THE AWARENESS FORMULA”

In my book “The Awareness Formula”I share vital information regarding safety and awareness. Below is an excerpt from my book regarding social media. It is my hope that The Warrior Wisdom Blog will inspire, entertain, and keep you and your family safe. Until my next article Godspeed.

 SOCIAL MEDIA PITFALLS

Regarding social media you must understand that the world is not your personal playground. Just as you would not like to have the front

 



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door to your home open 24/7 for anyone to take a peek at your daily activities why then would you make yourself available to a complete stranger simply because he or she had a nice profile message and picture?

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Even if you do know the person from your high school days or from the neighborhood it is always best to maintain a certain level of privacy and distance. For example everyone is not worthy of knowing:

1.Where you live (Stalking and other crimes)

2. Your luxury car (Stalking and other crimes)

3.Where you work (Stalking and other crimes)

4.Where you shop (Stalking and other crimes)

5.What vacation plans you have (this broadcasts that your house will be empty)
6.What the inside of your home looks like (blueprint for a robbery)

7.How many children your have and where they go to school (RANSOM)

8.How good looking your you or your wife or husband is (Strife in the relationship due to someone flirting with you or your wife or worse one of you entertaining the flirts)

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Please understand that when you post something on the
internet it is there forever, and that there are so many opportunities to snoop, plan, trick, lie, and gather information that even people who are not criminals like the person you knew in tenth grade or that co-worker you used to say hi to can be tempted to engage in criminal behavior. So just imagine what a seasoned criminal can do with the information you give him.

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My advice to you is to always remember that the world is not your playground, your focus should always be safety first, recognize threat indicators, process information, then determine whether you, or your family should engage in the activity in question or not. What the world tells you is “go have fun do what makes you happy Y.O.L.O” (you only live once) right? Well hopefully you can see the lack of wisdom in those statements. Thank you for visiting the Shu Ha Ri Do Warrior Wisdom Blog and for taking the time to read this article. Please feel free to browse around, there are several other very powerful articles that I guarantee you will find useful.

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VIBES ARE A BIG PART OF THE PROCESS OF “BECOMING”. KNOW THE VIBE!

KNOW THE VIBE…

Vibes are coming at you,

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with a silent hum vibes can

shape what you become.

Before vibing with a vibe

you must understand the agenda,

the reason, and the ryhme.

 The process of “becoming”,

happens through interaction

or succumbing, to a particular

vibe at a particular time.

It is vital that you understand,

that vibes can be viral…

What does a virus do?

Enters and reproduces inside of you!

know the vibe!

For more clarity about the poem you just read. What do I mean when I say vibe? A vibe< like a noun can be a person place or thing. What kind of places are negative? Clubs, many parties, some neighborhoods. What kind of things could be negative? Music, movies, certain activities, and much more.

You have to keep it real with yourself. You know when something is righteous or not. However, if you choose to ignore the obvious red flags, then you simply cannot be surprised at what chaos comes to your life.

Guard your passions, they shape you!

TEACH THEM WELL, ONE DAY THEY’LL LEAD…

 

UNFORTUNATELY…FOOLISHNESS IS THE NEW WISDOM. RESIST THIS!

WISDOM FROM “THE BOOK OF HAI CLUE”

Foolishness says the wise teacher!

I am surrounded by foolishness!

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on my worst enemy I don’t think I’d wish

this. A fool desires nothing around that’s

profound, let wisdom sound… and surely

he’ll toss it in the lost and found. Let

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IT IS APPARENT THAT SOMEONE LOST THEIR BRAIN

the sisters ‘gossip’ and ‘slander’ rear

their ugly heads, and all fools rise

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REALLY?

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together to take part in what is said. Let talk

of materialism take center stage, and no

fool worth his weight will turn that page.

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SERIES OF DEATHS DUE TO BLACK FRIDAY

They all say “this fragrance, that car,

with these things I’ll shine like a

star! This jewelry, those shoes, what

first do I choose? Say one word about

God or his son, and oh! They are sure to poke fun.

Talk of honor, respect, or loyalty,

such things fools care not to hear or see.

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Never speaking, “they” have taught many that have “let” them lead.

 

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MENTAL CONVULSIONS? A 3 PART EXPLANATION OF THE PROCESS OF BECOMING AWARE OF HIDDEN TRUTH…

 

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Think of life in society like this. Everyday you are being bombarded with new and old concepts, beliefs, trends, styles, and popular culture. Many never stop the onslaught to examine what they are seeing and hearing to find out that it is actually toxic and as destructive as a bullet. Unfortunately, as children we are programmed to believe everything that is promoted (make believe). So for many the programming we received long ago



continues with us saying “of course that’s true” professor so and so taught me that. The question is did you stop the “bullet” to examine it for yourself? Have you ever verified the things you “know” to be true? Like NEO in the Matrix clip below, just say no at what is being fired at you and take a closer look and watch the lies fall to the floor.

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Once you start looking, at things. Once you begin to question the “unquestionable” you will be stunned at the real truth about what you “thought” you knew. You will begin to see the hidden “Code” of truth all around you. I know this to be true, it happened to me. The truth about life, creation, wolves, sheep, shepherds, and who your “real” ALLY is becomes crystal clear. You will not be the same once your eyes are open.

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Regarding the subject of eyes. Indeed once they are open you will not even need them to block the attacks i.e. destructive elements of society. Those things that bring chaos to yourself and your family. You will simply “Know” what they are and that you and your household should have nothing to do with those things. These destructive elements can be in the form of people, concepts pushed through trends, styles, movies, songs, and other methods. Blocking those things out of your life will become effortless once your eyes are open to how destructive they are and that they exist for that very purpose. Places you will find tons of lies are food, medicine, history, science, our creator/Father, the Earth, and more.

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Having a mental convulsion yet? In this article I am using clips from the movie “The Matrix” as metaphors for what’s really going on in the world. I want everyone to see that there is a method, a strategy to overcoming the “highly orchestrated” “highly weaponized” chaos aimed at everyone. Only you can say “no” to the “bullets” like Neo did (red pill). Or you can continue saying yes and being used as target practice (blue pill). It’s totally up to you.

 

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            THE FOUR WAYS OF BETRAYAL

1. IT BETRAYS GOD

First of all it is a major disappointment to God as he is the author of marriage. He encouraged the first husband and wife to “be fruitful and multiply”.  Biblically speaking it is a sacred bond between a man and a woman where “the two become one flesh”. The act of adultery is also called unfaithfulness. I am sure we all can agree that faithfulness is a good thing. With that being said, there should be no debate as to whether unfaithfulness is a bad thing. It is. Now, I am not writing this to beat those who have struggled or given into this over the head. I am writing this to shed light on how, and why you should change. Adultery/unfaithfulness betrays the expectations that God has regarding relationships.

 

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When you enter into a relationship even if it’s girlfriend or boyfriend faithfulness is expected. Who starts dating with the idea that unfaithfulness is ok? So don’t think of this article in terms of what you have been taught about marriage. Marriage is much more than a license. Ask yourself these questions, how were people married before the 1800’s? What was the “REAL” reason for the marriage license when it started? Do you know? What was “common law marriage” how different is it from long term dating? What about those who marry just for citizenship are they really married? Is God going to ask for your marriage license?

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What does the word marry mean? Think in terms of engineering?  Well, when you research these answers you will have a clearer picture of the value of a relationship, and how you should approach them license or not. Here is another question to ask yourself, what about contracting and transferring a disease. Now that would be double betrayal! What I am saying here is, regardless of a license if you are unfaithful, you are betraying the person you are with.

3. IT BETRAYS YOUR CHILDREN

If you have children please understand that you are betraying them as well.Image result for children and adultery Not only does your mate have an expectation that you will be faithful but, your children do as well. You must be real about the painful effects. Think of the embarrassment that your children will experience especially if things end in a public display which usually happens. Think of your daughter orson copying the same behavior, or worse endorsing, and enduring it. Meditate on this…

4. IT BETRAYS YOUR LEGACY

You must understand that you are building a legacy with your actions. If you are living a life of betraying relationships that goes on your “moral resume” which is basically your LEGACY. Your children run the risk of following in your footsteps. You simply must see the impact faithfulness and loyalty to your mate has on your moral resume/legacy. You and your mate are the builders, the designers of what will be your bloodline the merger of two seeds! So choose your mate wisely, and when you have a good one DO NOT sabotage it with betrayal!

 

 

THE 7 STRATEGIES OF PROTECTION

1. YOU SIMPLY MUST DECIDE THAT YOU WILL NOT DO IT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES

I have written several posts about “CODE” which is basically a set of principles, I live by a biblical code. If you use this information properly I can assure you that it will keep chaos away from you home. Meditate on this

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post and decide that you will live by a code of integrity, morality, faithfulness, trustworthiness, and wisdom. Decide that under no circumstances will you betray your relationship. Even when they make you mad after an argument, betrayal is never justified.

2. THINK OF HOW YOU WOULD FEEL IF IT WERE DONE TO  YOU

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For most of us this would cause a tremendous amount of pain. Ask yourself would you want your daughter or son to feel this. So regardless of whether your husband or wife said something hurtful or made you angry. Do not make a permanent decision over a temporary emotion. There are much better ways to deal with conflicts. If your spouse is abusive you could get counseling, separate, or worst case scenario divorce. As I mentioned in step 1. live by a code.

3. YOU MUST CLEARLY DEFINE WHAT IS APPROPRIATE AND INAPPROPRIATE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX (BE AWARE ALSO THAT AS OF NOW ANY SEX WILL PROPOSITION YOU)

You must be real with yourself about those outside of your relationship. You and your spouse/mate must have talks about what is inappropriate. You cannot assume when you meet someone that they have the same habits, comfort zones, or cultural background as you. There are things that will cause problems in an otherwise good relationship, that people just do not think about. I will explain further in the following steps.

4. BE ON  GUARD AT WORK, EXPECT FLIRTATION, ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

You simply must not underestimate the impact jobs or careers can have on relationships. I would go as far as saying that jobs and careers are hostile to relationships. For example, there are many uncomfortable situations that women and men are forced into on jobs. Like being forced into awkward

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lunch situations with the opposite sex due to a schedule. Being expected or coerced into buying a gift for a co-worker of the opposite sex whose name was pulled out of a hat i.e. “secret santa”. Working in confined quarters with the opposite sex where uncomfortable silences get broken by forced conversations, forced familiarity. Are you doubting this? Well, you have only to think of all the times when women and especially men have taken advantage of these types of scenarios. So many women have come forward to complain about sexual harassment on the job. This happens to men as well however, most either enjoy it or feel uncomfortable making complaint. Internalize 1. 2. and 3. and establish boundaries at your job.

5. BE CORDIAL BUT MEASURED WITH NEIGHBORS, ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

Relationships with neighbors can also be an awkward science to master. However, master it you must because unless you live on a multi acre estate you will have neighbors. What you simply must be real about is the fact that everyone has character flaws. The character flaws that you are committed to tolerating and being patient with as they change are the ones in your home.

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When it comes to those outside but right next door or across the street from your home you must be measured. You simple must not be overly friendly with your neighbor of the opposite sex. If you do you could very easily reinforce the wrong idea day after day and find yourself in an awkward situation faced with their character flaws and temptations. Or even worse have your flaws mingling with theirs, so maintain the intimacy and privacy of your home by setting boundaries with neighbors.

6. GOING TO NIGHTCLUBS IS TOXIC FOR MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIPS

Though some many not agree with this, I will pose some questions everyone must be real about. What time do clubs open? What time do they close? What are the main types of drinks at clubs? Are most people sober? Why do women drink free after midnight? Are guys looking for wives there? Are

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women looking for husbands? Would you tell your daughter or son to look for her mates there? That smell in the air, is it pine? Why is Rohypnol called the club drug? I encourage you to meditate on these questions and your answers and watch the epiphany come over you.

7. ESTABLISH PHYSICAL AND MENTAL CHECK-POINTS

What I am about to share in this step is so important. What do I mean by check points? Let’s start with your eyes, they are a check point.  They are a check point for your mind, the eyes are the first check point.

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If something is forbidden or dangerous limit your looks to one or none if possible. The second check point is your mind/thoughts. If you continue looking you will continually think about what/who you are observing limit your thoughts to

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one or none if possible. The 3rd and very dangerous check point is your feelings. What

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you continually think about you will eventually begin to feel. You simply must stop this at the thought check point if it gets past your eyes. The fourth check point is communication at this point there should be all kinds

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FORBIDDEN WITH SOMEONE NOT YOUR MATE

of sirens, bells, and whistles blowing in your mind warning you to stop! It is

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at this point that your flaws/temptations begin to merge with the flaws/temptations of another. At this point the problem is no longer just inside of you, it is now outside of you. You have made known to the opposite sex that which should never have taken root in you. If the feelings are reciprocated now come the discussion of physical expression of the feelings, at this point all check points have been bypassed. You see I break it down like this to show that there is no such thing as “it just happened”.

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No, it does not just happen. There are check points unfortunately for some those check points have no guards at the post. I will summarize this step in 5 words SIGHT, THOUGHT, FEELINGS, COMMUNICATION, ACTIONS.The four words you can use to summarize and internalize this teaching are “ESTABLISH & MAINTAIN PROPER BOUNDARIES”. You can build a great relationship! I speak from experience! You can do it! Apply the strategies that I share in this post, be consistent and watch the fortress of a relationship that emerges over time.

POETIC WISDOM FOR MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS AND COMMUNICATION

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